People say you need to fake it until you make it. It sounds trite. But this is the most important advice I have ever received.
Now this isn’t a prescription for everyone. But it worked for me. When I was in High School I was extremely depressed, I was in a really dark place and the therapist I was seeing told me just that. Pretend your happy. Pretend you’re all this things you wish you were. So I did. It took a while. But I kept telling myself I was a happy person. My identity turned from someone who was depressed to someone who was only sometimes sad. I turned into someone who usually had a smile on her face.
This works for everything. If you just keep telling yourself you are something you will eventually become that thing. This Lady Gaga Quote has also really helped instill this belief system in me:
“I used to walk down the street like I was a fucking star… I want people to walk around delusional about how great they can be – and then to fight so hard for it every day that the lie becomes the truth.
Pretend you already are the incredible person you want to be. Then someday you’ll wake up and realize you’re there.